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If you are the new spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend or
Significant Other of a person who has been married or in a serious
relationship that failed, don’t hold his/her mistakes against them and
don’t make a fuss if they are still on decent terms with this person
from their past - who may be
the other parent of their children. But even if there are no kids
involved, be grateful that your beloved can exit a relationship
gracefully and without rancor. It speaks well of him or her.
Do not be jealous of this person from his or her past.
Do not be possessive and grabby, trying to keep your new love away from
their former mate. Do not be restrictive and tell him or her that you do
not want them talking to or having anything to do with this person from
their past. Do not be suspicious of the motives of either one of them if
they express cordiality to each other. It does not mean either one wants
the other one back.
And even if your new love’s ex DOES want him/her back,
not to worry. It’s over between them. You’re in the picture now. If you
act grabby, possessive, and mistrustful, you’re only going to drive a
wedge between yourself and your new love. Be calm. All is well. What’s
over is over.
Look ahead. It’s YOUR day, YOUR turn now.